Sexuality in the Arts

“Maybe That’s Something” lyrics by Sheryl Crow from her The Globe Sessions album:

We lay around just like gurus
In borrowed robes
And talk about nothing
Well maybe that’s something
Maybe that’s something

You stretch out across a long long table
Without hesitation
You say, “I’m willing and able.”

Maybe that’s something
Maybe that’s one thing more than I’ve seen
Maybe that’s something more than nothing.

You say good, I say you should, will you be there?
Making miracles is hard work,
Most people give up before they happen.

Maybe that’s something
Maybe that’s one thing more than I’ve seen
Maybe that’s something more than nothing,
More than nothing, more than nothing.

Maybe that’s something
Maybe that’s one thing more than I’ve seen
Maybe that’s something more than nothing
More than nothing, more than nothing, more than nothing.

© All rights reserved by Sheryl Crow.

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Can’t sleep

It’s late at night here.

Feel I should get some things out of cycling through my head.

So, here goes:

Why was it important for everyone that I let her know I had one more love that would not fade?

I believed on some levels she had made incorrect inferences and conclusions about the nature of love.

I believed she would benefit from knowing the people who had known her well never stopped loving her.

I couldn’t convey that honest information and play by the rules everyone tries to follow, the rules everyone thinks are ideal.

Many years ago, I may have damaged her at a key formative time in her life.

She likely interpreted my actions incorrectly, feeding into her worst fears.

I was wrong.

And I believed she would benefit from knowing I believed I had acted wrong at several significant times.

There was no way to give her better peace of mind and understanding without being remarkably candid.

It wasn’t that I thought I had better love for her than she already had.

I had little information on those topics and that was not my intent or my assertions.

While more people tend to know more things, and different people tend to know different things,

I never advocated a course of choosing one person over another, or choosing some people to the exclusion of others.

Sometimes love isn’t only about “better than,” sometimes it’s about “also exists.”

She deserved to know she had my love, respect, and admiration . . . and she had not lost it.

She needed to know that true love doesn’t disappear.  It survives amidst incredible hardships.

True love doesn’t diminish over time, and it doesn’t go out of mind.

True love isn’t crazy, but it is resilient beyond most people’s expectations and understandings.

And I wasn’t the only person from her past who still admired her and cared about her.

I believed she would benefit from having confirming feedback from others who had known her well and loved her.

Their caring had not disappeared either.

There are some truths about love that don’t fit into neat groups of two.

But those truths shouldn’t always be silenced.

Sometimes uncommonly spoken truths about love can tell us more about the nature of relationships and bonds.

I couldn’t live with her living the rest of her life without more accurate data from the people who had known her well.

I believed more accurate data from the people who had known her well would help her better interpret her chosen present and futures.

I don’t know if my communications had their good-intended effects, but I did what I thought would help everyone the most.

I did what I thought would help everyone interpret each other more accurately and truthfully.

I didn’t need her unnecessarily or incorrectly questioning the nature, depths, and resolves of the loves she had.

And I hope she saw all of her loves in more revealing and honest lights.

I couldn’t speak with certainty about the nature of others’ love.

But I could speak of mine.

And I believe that was the most honest and helpful thing I could do for everyone.

So

Don’t be afraid if you love too hard or if you love too strong.

Neither of those characteristics will necessarily improve the odds you will receive the love you seek.

But communicating the depths of your love may still benefit all the people you care about.

Speak your heart.

Speak your mind.

Lay your love out on the table.

Even when it is not accepted, it still may have positive effects for anyone passing by.

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