Dialogues

I’m usually not sophisticated or continuously connected enough to write essays or articles.  My ideas come in sentences and paragraphs more than chapters.

Like this:

To be really good at maintaining a vibrant intimate relationship, it helps to have these 3 skills:

1)  The rare ability to sense what your partner really wants, even when they don’t communicate it clearly – which is very difficult to do consistently, and

2)  The ability to communicate to your partner what you really want – which most people underestimate how difficult that is to do – it is difficult to even figure out what would make yourself happy, and

3)  To be able to pleasantly pace and negotiate those wants between the two of you – which is often a moving target.  Like a jealous instrument that requires regular practice to maintain the skill – so too are intimate relationships.

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Because few people follow this blog often enough to see most of the updated comments that queue up in the right column “last 3 comments” widget, and because there are several hundred posts that can receive comments, occasionally I create posts that compile recent comments and related feedback for readers to review.  This is one of those posts.

Before I share the quid pro quos, I estimate that the average reader of this blog probably tends to be someone who has loved and lost more times than they’d have liked, tends to champion individualism, and tends to be more open to liberal ideas.  Don’t know if that’s true, but here’s a smattering of recent comments from this month of July 2008:

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About the post Iron and Wine – The Lovely Bones, gluefoot wrote:  “check out the title track of “the sea and the ryhthm” EP on sub pop records”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you gluefoot for the recommendation.  I look forward to listening to it.

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About the post Stéphane Coutelle, anonymous wrote:  “so sexy it makes me masterbate”

OneMoreOption: That’s not a bad thing.  But your spelling leaves something to be desired.

(I felt a little like I was channeling Oscar Wilde when I wrote that response.)

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About the post Brian Bolland Strips, Gina wrote:  “This little taste of Boland Strips left me wanting to see more.  I’ll have to get a hold of this book.”

OneMoreOption:  Fun.  I doubt many libraries have it to borrow, but I hope browsing it will please you.  His third “The Actress and The Bishop” story is a fascinating investigation into presumptions of evil or “personifications” of evil.  It invites the question:  Does evil come from some dark external force?  Or does some evil come as a result of assumptions that dark external forces of evil exist?  Does some evil come simply from the attempts to personify it?  It is a very smart tale.

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About the post Sophie’s Choices – What Choices Are We Forced To Make? What Choices Do We Force Ourselves To Make?, Paige wrote:  “Wow, your views are revolutionary and incredible and make me feel better about a love triangle I found myself in . . .”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you for the very kind feedback Paige.  Best wishes to you and yours in your futures.

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About the post Sisters Virginia Woolf & Vanessa Bell – Pens, Brushes, Presses, and Minds of Their Own. Part 1 of 3, Heidi wrote:  “beatifull, like Virginia and Vanessa, soul and spririt.  Heidi”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you. 

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About the post Gustav Klimt’s Lost Paintings, Mark D wrote:  “I’m an artist who’s been influenced subconsciously by Klimt in a big way, even though my work is divergent.

Who can explain the magic he tapped into? His work is a fine example of art “Expressing the inexpressible.” Not my phrase, but one I can easily apply to his work.

Where can I get higher res digital or better images of the phots you show here?  I’m powerfully drawn to them, even in black and white.  Thank you

OneMoreOption: “Expressing the inexpressible”  Yes, that’s a lovely description.  At least Klimt tried to express what is/was inexpressible.  Maybe enough people have thought that he successfully came close enough to achieving those intents to make his hard and rebellious works worthwhile.  I hope so.  I don’t know of higher res scans or how to obtain them.

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About the post On George Carlin, alreadygrace wrote, “Your post and comments are a beautiful tribute!”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you for the compliment.  It was easy to write a tribute for such a beautiful person.

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About the post Katie Herzig – Wish You Well, anonymous wrote:  “THAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANK YOU
I REALLY LOVEEE THAT SONG

OneMoreOption:  me too.

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About the post Just Breathe, katie wrote:  “wow that was to me the most beautiful thing you wrote that i read so far!  unawareingly i was listening to a song that reminded me of the person i loved.  that made me think of how i changed since my loss happened, even though i still see her (at school) i lost my chance and im trying to accept that.  I really love these blogs!  thank you.”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you for the kind feedback.

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About the post If You Want . . . If You Fear . . ., bruce wrote, “Thank You for this.”

OneMoreOption:  Thank you Bruce for your consistent positive feedback. 

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On a related side note:  I’ve always enjoyed and yearned for more substantive conversations on truly important topics.  This blog has helped me enjoy those kinds of exchanges more often.  Sincere thanks to everyone who writes in kind and critical comments.

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