What You Don’t Perceive, Can Hurt You
The above artwork is by Alexandra Catana.
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What You Don’t Perceive, Can Hurt You
~ by OneMoreOption
The most significant and frequent social inability I have witnessed in my peers and relatives is an inability to fully recognize, evaluate, and appreciate the value of nearby human resources.
In this life, what you are able “to see” is relative to what you will get.
If you don’t see or perceive the value in the people around you, then you will not recognize valuable social opportunities. Further, people will be able to tell when you don’t value them. Your actions, spoken and unspoken, will reveal your level of interest in others. When you don’t show your recognition and admiration, people will see that on a regular basis. And if that regular feedback from you is neutral or negative, that will wear on the people socializing with you.
I have a good friend from college who dated a kind girl during college. He complained about minor things about her. He complained about her relatives more than he criticized her. Eventually, they broke up. She went on to marry another guy, have beautiful kids, and live a pleasant life. Conversely, my friend never married. He wanted to get married. There were some women he thought were valuable enough, but they didn’t want to marry him. Life’s funny that way.
I’m not suggesting people should “lower their standards.” Rather, I’m suggesting people should educate themselves more to be able to recognize and give warranted props to the good qualities in others.
If you’re trying to maintain a relationship, and you can’t find significant regular time to do activities with your partner, then it won’t take long for them to put 2 and 2 together and realize they are not a high priority in your life. If you don’t appreciate your partner’s time enough to make time to focus on doing pleasant things with them regularly, they’re not likely going to be ignorant or stupid and not see your priorities and actions. If you’re going to ask them to put all or most of their intimate social expressions into your basket, and you respond by not making regular time for them, that’s going to rub most people wrong.
If you see something of value, give it the time and attentions something of value deserves.
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This is really wise counsel on relationships. It is pretty obvious common sense. There are things we think we want but when it really comes down to the effort, the real interest, well, you know…and then we are mystified when it disappears. “WTF” we say!
On your recommendation I saw “Dogville” last night. What a film!!! I can’t say it was pleasant but it was profound. I’m still trying to figure it out and know I am missing a lot. I will reread your review and look for others too. It’s a little too much to watch again.
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Mark: Interesting.