Daniel Southard 2014

The 49% Principle

I am a Type-A personality, high-achiever, from a family of Type-A, high-achievers.  I like to win at games, sports, and debates.  I tend to be competitive and press for an advantage at every turn, even in casual conversations.  Only recently have I realized how prominent that pattern is in me. I work to promote equality in…

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Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, Ph.D.

This is the best book on long-term romantic, intimate relationships I’ve ever read. I will read it again and again. I highly recommend it.  Intelligent.  Complex.  It effectively calls out, or calls into question, many bad, clichéd psychotherapy presumptions. If you (or someone you love) is unsatisfied in their long-term relationship, this book is worthwhile…

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A Trinity Of Intimacy

As is often the case, the following ideas are not necessarily true, but they may be sufficiently provocative to be worth consideration. An alternate title for this post was:  So, You Don’t Feel You’re Receiving Enough Intimacy From Your Partner? In social relationships, there are different facets, circles, or spheres of intimacy.  If you are…

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A Person’s Art Is Often Their Heart On Their Sleeve

Here are the books I’m currently reading this summer: I just finished this book.  The subtitle “Reclaiming Your Boundaries” is very good.  I recommend this book.  The concepts and definitions about love are worth careful evaluation.  I’m not saying, “The concepts are correct,” ‘cuz I don’t know what is correct.  Rather, the ideas, the options,…

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If You Are Frustrated With Dealing With People Who Live In Closets, What Ideas May Help You Be More At Peace And Possibly Help You Interact With Them In More Healthy Ways?

The ideas below, most of which I came across for the first time in the last few days, are being considered thoroughly by me.  I’m not advocating the ideas to you.  I’m not saying, “Hey, these are good ideas.”  They may be.  They may not be.  I’m sharing the ideas with you to show my…

Special

First Understand, Not Only Are You Special On The Whole, But Also, There Are So Many Parts Of You That You Should Take Time Regularly To Treat As Special

Thank you to the new email subscribers.  I don’t know what the cultural zeitgeist is interested in.  Rather, I write about the things I’m innately interested in. The word “special” gets batted around and belittled often.  That is unfortunate because it is a good word, a word that can carry important self-worth and perceptual concepts.…